Communication is made up of 20% spoken word, 10% para-language (tone, pitch, volume and speed of talking) and 70% body language. That is why someone thought of the adage “It is not what you say but how you say it.”

In the Blogosphere, communication is only 20% spoken word and a little of blog language – appearance, theme of the blog, etc. Does this mean that communication in cyberspace via blogs is incomplete? Does it do justice to man’s ability to communicate (which incidentally is what keeps him apart from the rest of the animal kingdom)? Is communication actually happening at all within the blogging community?

If you go by the growth in the blogosphere population, you will conclude that communication is definitely enhanced here. Yes, it is getting pretty crowded by the minute, which means a lot of people are enjoying it and are finding it rewarding and relevant. More and more individuals are discovering the joys, benefits and rewards of living a virtual life through their blogs. This virtual life is somewhat parallel to their real life but it is at a totally different dimension.

In the blogosphere, they can re-create themselves, they can even package themselves in the way they want their readers to perceive them. They have cyber friends yet they can choose which ones to get close to. Unlike in real life, their personal space is not violated (well, except for spammers). What their online friends see in their life is the edited, sanitized version.

Which leads this writer to conclude that it is easier to relate with others in cyberspace than in real life. You see, a lot of the world’s problems are caused by misunderstanding and too much familiarity. In cyberspace, Bloggers perfectly understand each other and are able to maintain and protect their personal space – which is healthy in relationships. Everyone seems to be nice (which is related to my earlier point that Bloggers can tweak their packaging to make them more appealing). I haven’t “met” a rude blogger, believe me.

Human relationships are dynamic and eternally changing. They are governed by the circumstances that surround them and the interplay of personalities involved. In the blogosphere, these circumstances all favor the prospering of friendships and rapport. No one ever sees another pouting or snubbing others. Bloggers never hear their fellow Bloggers cuss or malign another person in the blogging community. Everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion.

If half of the world behaved the way Bloggers do, we won’t have a lot of problems like broken relationships or even wars. Everyone would be supportive and cordial, leaving only nice comments and making his or her presence known in the most respectful manner.

But relating with other Bloggers lack the physical touch of a friend or the radiant smile of a neighbor. Everything seems to be manufactured, engineered and controlled. Nevertheless, it is the newest way to relate with other people and netizens find it worth their while, really. Besides, it is very effective. We get a lot of the body language from our personal interactions in real life, anyway.

Let the blogging life be as blissful as it is – without the body language but with loads of civility and respect. Yes, it is a lot easier to relate with others in the blogosphere.

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